How do you make decisions? Is it a wasp chasing you while swinging a shoe situation? You will not always hit the intentionality zone, that’s not life. But is there a pattern? Are your decisions regularly pressured and impulsive versus value-checked and connected? Journal Prompt: My decision-making is like...
Tag: Selfcare
Self-Evaluation, 5
Self-evaluation devolves–quickly–into comparison evaluation with the nearby. Comparison is not self-evaluation. Rather, self-evaluation inventories what is currently making movement in your life. Journal Prompts: I mostly compare myself with... I am currently making movements toward...
Self-Evaluation, 4
Hollow and knee-deep–far from your hopes of meaning making–this is what happens when you have trouble saying no. We all need the self-advocacy skill of walking away, causing inconvenience, and asserting interruptions…
Boundaries, With Yourself, 2
A marriage and family therapist will always be interested in the boundaries modeled for you. Your growing years were the place you were taught through demonstration... ...if it is okay to have limits. ...if your body should be set on the altar of politeness. ...if your feelings and thoughts matter. If the modeling you experienced did not demonstrate healthy boundaries, as an adult, you get to unvelcro yourself and choose new ones. Journal Prompts: ...was modeled for me. As an adult, I would like to choose...
Boundaries, With Yourself, 1
Boundaries, with yourself, 1 The very first person you set boundaries with, is yourself. To set any boundary requires acknowledgement that you indeed have limits. Oliver Burkemen brilliantly describes our finite relationship with time in his book, Four Thousand Weeks. Similarly with boundaries, we must regard our capabilities as finite; what we can do for others, what we can influence, parent, tend to, or be, they have limits. Journal Prompt: I need to acknowledge my limits...
Feeling Your Way Through A Panic Attack, 9
If panic attacks joystick your world, leading happens from fear, not intention. Journal Prompt: My intention is to...
Feeling Your Way Through A Panic Attack, 8
The prospect of another panic attack can recoil any forward efforts. Back in line, no risks allowed. Avoidance hotel stays welcome. Journal Prompt: My life feels smaller...
Feeling Your Way Through A Panic Attack, 7
A panic attack is not random. Panic attacks can be activated by something specific, think noun, a person, place, or a thing. Or, panic attacks can happen without a specific trigger, and be a byproduct of stockpiling stressors. It resembles a full balloon slipping from your fingers while you are trying to insert the final puff of stress. Journal Prompts: Nouns that historically trigger panic attacks for me are... I am stockpiling...
Feeling Your Way Through A Panic Attack, 6
A panic attack is the Super Bowl for loss of control feelings. Journal Prompt: I most fear losing control of...
Feeling Your Way Through A Panic Attack, 5
Streaming in, static occupies your head, and electric currents file out to the fingers and toes. Not the currency of a budding first date, no, rather the current of tripping when your perpetrator has about caught up. When a panic attack takes over, it feels like the only thing. Journal Prompt: The take over of a panic attack feels like...
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