Rumination.

Conflicts decrease in fairness when you ruminate obsessively.

Having a personal perspective, valid.
Reflection for personal growth, helpful.
Obsessive rumination, hazardous.

Obsessive rumination puts you at risk of responding and reacting out of context. This rumination can fuel self-triggering narratives–sunk deep in your history.

It may sound like:

“You never think of my needs, just like my mom never considered my needs. No one ever considers my needs.“

Increasing fair conflict comes with rethinking how much mental real estate you are willing to give rumination.


Journal Prompt: Rumination tends to lead to…