Boundaries, With Yourself, 9

Stop gaslighting yourself, it's too much. Journal Prompt: ...is too much.

Boundaries, With Yourself, 8

Lost contact with yourself, means less sensitivity to self-abusive practices. Self-abusive practices... Harm. Restrict. Punish. Binge. Control. Demean. Journal Prompt: When I lose contact with myself, I...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 7

Over-stimulated children don’t do well, neither do you. A boundary for yourself is a boundary that respects your sensory experience. Journal Prompt: A boundary voting for less stimulation would...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 6

Boundaries with yourself is knowing that there is more to do and more to be, yet declaring that it is good enough.

Boundaries, With Yourself, 5

Boundaries will not be helpful if they are set right at your limit, squeezing each and every last drop of you. Helpful boundaries are set with more margin. Journal Prompt: If I gave myself breathing room, I would set the boundary...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 4

Boundaries are allowed to change if you find that they are not working for you. But first you need a start, a working theory of what and where your limits are. You cannot run trials on an ambiguous, constantly-moving ballpark of your capabilities. Journal Exercise: Write out five starting places to trial in each column. I can handle... I cannot handle...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 3

Set boundaries that value your self-worth. Even if you are still working on the self-worth part. Because, aren’t we all still working on the self-worth part? Journal Prompt: If I valued my self-worth, I would set boundaries...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 2

A marriage and family therapist will always be interested in the boundaries modeled for you. Your growing years were the place you were taught through demonstration... ...if it is okay to have limits. ...if your body should be set on the altar of politeness. ...if your feelings and thoughts matter. If the modeling you experienced did not demonstrate healthy boundaries, as an adult, you get to unvelcro yourself and choose new ones. Journal Prompts: ...was modeled for me. As an adult, I would like to choose...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 1

Boundaries, with yourself, 1 The very first person you set boundaries with, is yourself. To set any boundary requires acknowledgement that you indeed have limits. Oliver Burkemen brilliantly describes our finite relationship with time in his book, Four Thousand Weeks. Similarly with boundaries, we must regard our capabilities as finite; what we can do for others, what we can influence, parent, tend to, or be, they have limits. Journal Prompt: I need to acknowledge my limits...

Feeling Your Way Through A Panic Attack, 9

If panic attacks joystick your world, leading happens from fear, not intention. Journal Prompt: My intention is to...