If you are drawn to quiet rooms and introspection, dance clubs will not be where you find sustainable community. Being honest and realistic is necessary to finding community. Without honesty, you force what is unnatural. You grow frustrated and resentful, widening the gap between your core and your outside display (read, the opposite of a sense of belonging). Experiment with me. I am weekly impressed with the meet-ups that exist in the world. For fun, look up your actual interests: https://www.meetup.com/ This is a sample of groups happening this week: AI & Appetizers Puzzle meetup and swap For the introverts and shy group (Online) Astrology for beginners Coffee and Chess Job hunting group Pugs in the Park Food Prep 101 (Online) People are looking for you. - Journal Prompts: I am interested in... I am not interested in...
Tag: Relationships
Finding Community, 2
The scarcity echo that there are not enough people around interested in connecting is avoidance. It is far more likely that your anxiety about connection is a barrier rather than a limited supply. Journal Prompts: Most people... I feel anxious about connecting when...
Finding Community, 1
Your urge for a sense of belonging is a biological feature, not something you choose to add a la carte. - Journal Prompts: I belong... I want to experience belonging...
Work Out Your Mind, 9
Journal prompts for dismissing the inside.
Work Out Your Mind, 4
A prompt for observing your thoughts.
Family Anxiety, 5
Your body has athletic memory that cues hyper-vigilance and rapid speech into place. While this memory is protective and helpful often, sometimes with family, it is memory response instead of a contextual one. Journal Prompts: ...immediately prompts anxiety for me. ...triggers hyper-vigilance.
Family Anxiety, 4
Anxiety shapes the way you experience family. Molded from repetition, you slip into a glove of responsiveness that is comfortable because it is known. Think a stiff leather glove, with little flexibility, demanding that you experience family as you always have. Journal Prompts: I am hypersensitive to... My family will always be... My filter says...
Self-Evaluation, 3
Measure time spent hiding. Different from having reasonable privacy, hiding is fueled by the fear of isolation, embarrassment, and shame. Journal Prompts: How much energy do you put towards hiding? I hide... I feel embarrassed by...
Self-Evaluation, 2
Write about the quality of your current mental health compared with a different period of your life. Use these prompts for both time periods: What types of behaviors are observable to a bystander? What experiences are not visible, but are instead private?
Self-Evaluation, 1
Whatever the tone and content of your self-evaluation ticker, it’s unlikely objective and without bias. Instead, self-evaluation tends to velcro to old voices and external evaluators. While we may never reach complete objectivity, this series aims to increase it. Journal Prompt: My self-evaluation tends to velcro to...
