Self-Evaluation, 4

Hollow and knee-deep–far from your hopes of meaning making–this is what happens when you have trouble saying no. We all need the self-advocacy skill of walking away, causing inconvenience, and asserting interruptions…

Self-Evaluation, 3

Measure time spent hiding. Different from having reasonable privacy, hiding is fueled by the fear of isolation, embarrassment, and shame. Journal Prompts: How much energy do you put towards hiding? I hide... I feel embarrassed by...

Self-Evaluation, 2

Write about the quality of your current mental health compared with a different period of your life. Use these prompts for both time periods: What types of behaviors are observable to a bystander? What experiences are not visible, but are instead private?

Self-Evaluation, 1

Whatever the tone and content of your self-evaluation ticker, it’s unlikely objective and without bias. Instead, self-evaluation tends to velcro to old voices and external evaluators. While we may never reach complete objectivity, this series aims to increase it. Journal Prompt: My self-evaluation tends to velcro to...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 9

Stop gaslighting yourself, it's too much. Journal Prompt: ...is too much.

Boundaries, With Yourself, 8

Lost contact with yourself, means less sensitivity to self-abusive practices. Self-abusive practices... Harm. Restrict. Punish. Binge. Control. Demean. Journal Prompt: When I lose contact with myself, I...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 7

Over-stimulated children don’t do well, neither do you. A boundary for yourself is a boundary that respects your sensory experience. Journal Prompt: A boundary voting for less stimulation would...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 6

Boundaries with yourself is knowing that there is more to do and more to be, yet declaring that it is good enough.

Boundaries, With Yourself, 5

Boundaries will not be helpful if they are set right at your limit, squeezing each and every last drop of you. Helpful boundaries are set with more margin. Journal Prompt: If I gave myself breathing room, I would set the boundary...

Boundaries, With Yourself, 4

Boundaries are allowed to change if you find that they are not working for you. But first you need a start, a working theory of what and where your limits are. You cannot run trials on an ambiguous, constantly-moving ballpark of your capabilities. Journal Exercise: Write out five starting places to trial in each column. I can handle... I cannot handle...