When you feel cornered by your self-talk, it's a sign that it is more interested in control than the context. Journal Prompts: The last time I felt cornered by my self-talk was... I feel controlled by my self-talk when... My self-talk missed the context of...
Tag: Journaling
Self-Talk, 7
Atrocious self-talk needs a bit of distance to see its aggression and pattern. Distance can happen when you personify your self-talk as its own entity. Who from your past does your self-talk remind you of? What movie character do you hear? What would it smell like? If it had texture, what would it feel like? One of my favorites was someone personifying their self-talk as a Game of Thrones character being shamed and forced to walk naked. Or another, describing their self-talk smelling like the aftermath of burning. Or, the texture of a scratchy sweater you weren't allowed to take off. Journal Prompt: Personify your self-talk.
Self-Talk, 6
Say your 8-year-old neighbor shared that they were having a hard time feeling good enough. You would respond by...telling them to "get it together" and shame-talking them into a socially acceptable presentation? Nah. You would be compassionate and patient, mindful that they were having a hard time. You are capable of being compassionate and patient with yourself. Why? Because you do it with other people. _ Journal Prompt: Being compassionate with myself would mean... Being patient with myself would look like...
Self-Talk, 5
Your self-talk is an attempt at behavior modification. _ Journal Prompt: For better or for worse, how does self-talk mold your behavior?
Self-Talk, 4
Repetitive and distorting, self-talk can be incredibly misleading when it tries to interpret your current experience. A common cycle might look like: Review inadequacies. Feel bad. Ridicule and berate yourself. Feel bad. Make a plan to do differently. Feel a little less bad. Limp forward. Journal Prompt: My cycle...
Self-Talk, 3
What your self-talk often misses, is the gray. Internal rigidity is perpetually on defense and declines the off-ramp of alternative interpretations. Journal Prompts: My rigidity says... An alternative interpretation would be...
Self-Talk, 2
Some of the most distressing self-talk is the type that moves you toward isolation. When your self-talk is moving you to isolation, it is a signal that your least objective self is taking the mic. Journal Prompts: My isolating self-talk sounds like... My least objective self...
Self-Talk, 1
Your internal dialogue—like a news ticker—is self-talk. Sometimes it sounds like your favorite coach. Sometimes it sounds like a dictator. Sometimes it sounds like your wild aunt. Despite your current flavor of self-talk, your behavior and emotional states take note. We all need strategies to remain living the life we want, despite the hijacking attempts of self-talk. Journal Prompts: My self-talk sounds like... My current strategy is...
Manipulation, 9
Behind manipulation is often an intolerance of autonomy. What would it be like to resist the constant work of leveraging and influencing? How does your movement in the world change when you tolerate autonomy? Journal Prompts: I find it difficult to tolerate... Without constant influence, I would...
Manipulation, 8
Messing with someone's emotional state with the intention to guide your agenda is manipulation. It can't be understated that some folks have only learned to ask for what they need in this manner. The thought process might be, Only when there is a sad story can I lay bare a need. It is okay to call out the need directly if you are feeling manipulated. You are allowed to ask people to speak directly. Journal Prompts: My emotional state feels messed with when... If I ask for direct communication...
Mental Health & Journaling 