Grief: Journal Prompt 8

Grief can make you feel closed. Grief says, "I am well aware of the pain that can exist here. I am not fooled by the flippancy of optimism and hope". Prompt: I feel closed when... Day 9 Boundaries: Journal Prompt Series Blog Index

Grief: Journal Prompt 7

Grief carries an element of surprise. Many months can go by and you can feel untouched by the sadness that once overwhelmed you. And then all of a sudden a bad week turns to high emotions and some repressed aspect of grief splashes you in the face. It can feel defeating to return to difficult … Continue reading Grief: Journal Prompt 7 →

Grief: Journal Prompt 6

Grief is a time that we get clear about the things we need for healing and the other things we absolutely do not need. For years after my son passed I daily wore a necklace with some of his ashes. One summer my grandmother brashly told me it was time to have another baby so … Continue reading Grief: Journal Prompt 6 →

Grief: Journal Prompt 5

Grief is adjusting to change upon change upon change. Prompt: Tell me about all the change you have experienced... Blog Index Day 6

Grief: Journal Prompt 4

Grief is unorganized. It has no respect for rules, timetables, or expectations. Prompt: My grief feels unorganized when... Blog Index Day 5

Now Available: E-book On Boundaries & Alcohol

Now Available on Amazon Exhaustion in a relationship is a common theme when someone is struggling with an alcohol use disorder. In this book I will provide principles that can equip you to know how and when to set boundaries utilizing your values and needs while accounting for the capabilities of someone struggling with alcohol. … Continue reading Now Available: E-book On Boundaries & Alcohol →

Emotional Inequality in Relationships, Part 2

Ways we can promote emotional equality in our relationships.

Avoidance and Other Distractions

The act of avoidance is found in relationships. Avoidance shifts attention, keeps us outsourced, and removes us from seeing our own issues and doing our own work. Avoidance can be expressed in "if only" statements. If only _________ was fixed. If only they did ______________. If only they said _____________. If only they were__________. What … Continue reading Avoidance and Other Distractions →

Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill

I'm aware of our culture's low tolerance for the uncomfortable. In my experience, there seems to be a fear that drives this low tolerance. The fear of limitations; that we can't fix everything, that it will remain messy, and resolution will not come. This fear seems to keep us in fixing mode and our tolerance low for … Continue reading Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill →

I Choose to Move On

The vicious cycle of "stuck" holds many hostage with bad memories, mistakes, and regrets. The burden of hurt and pain is genuine. I watch victims work hard to move on. But they struggle, they get trapped. Internal experiences keep them from letting go and moving on; yet I continue to see the desperation to move on and … Continue reading I Choose to Move On →