Manipulation, 3

Manipulation often employs the emotional intensity of guilt. If you can make someone feel bad, it's far easier to get them to do something. - Journal Prompts: I feel guilty when... Guilt pushes me to...

Manipulation, 2

To address manipulation, we must first understand it. At its core, manipulation is often functional—it's a way people get their needs met. Users of manipulative language often struggle to know how to ask for what they need. A compassionate interpretation might be that this is how someone learned to get needs met within their family of origin. Perhaps direct and assertive language was either unwelcome or even viewed as disrespectful. While unhealthy, there are understandable parts. Journal Prompts: I don't know how to ask for... Direct language is...

Manipulation, 1

Manipulation is the unfair use of emotion to influence your agenda. Journal Prompts: I am quick to feel bad when... It feels unfair...

Boundaries Toward Good, 9

The cumulative good of boundaries is confidence that you have influenced the factors within your control. Journal Prompts: I can influence... I do not have influence over...

Journal Prompts

Try the two things can be true exercise. Journal out two ideas that can feel opposing. I need time alone and I want to connect with people in a meaningful way. I love my partner and I need to be more confrontational when it comes to my needs. I want more in my life and I want to be content with what I have. Make room for the tension.

Journal Prompts for Uncertainty

Uncertainty can corner you into assuming future narratives. These narratives have a jungle-like reputation of taking creative liberties, leaving behind your sense of calm and objectivity. Journal Prompts: My narrative has decided... Uncertainty leaves me to...

Journal Prompts for Connection

Social connection, is wading through your own projections, to see an interaction clearly. Pay attention to what you pay attention to. Notice where you get flapped up. It's an invitation for you, not them. Journal Prompts: In social connection I tend to fixate on... I get flapped up when...

Realistic Mindfulness, 9

Realistic mindfulness is becoming aware of a boundary that is not working. Journal Prompts: It is not working to... If I could, I would...

Realistic Mindfulness, 8

Opening up to in-context cues rather than defaulting to dusty muscle memory is mindfulness. Journal Prompts: My muscle memory is to... Seeing this moment in-context means...

Realistic Mindfulness, 7

Mindfulness is noting avoidance aerobics, and caring for the needs underneath. Journal Prompts: I am quick to avoid... What I really need is...