Setting Boundaries Series: Journal Prompt 2

The line between what you believe is ‘okay’ and ‘not okay’ is one way to think about boundaries. - Journal prompt 2: What is ‘not okay’ with you? - Day 3 Blog Index

Setting Boundaries Series: Journal Prompt 1

In the next 10 days I will take 10 principles of boundaries and provide a journal prompt for reflection. It can be difficult to know where to start with boundaries. I suggest looking inward at where the energy is. Which direction does your emotional energy go? Work? Relationships? Your kids? Your home? Let’s give space … Continue reading Setting Boundaries Series: Journal Prompt 1 →

Mindfulness and the Tongue

The practice of mindfulness provides space to learn how the body postures when stressed, relaxed, or happy.

Emotional Inequality in Relationships, Part 2

Ways we can promote emotional equality in our relationships.

Painsgiving

Can we find gratitude through grief during the holidays.

Avoidance and Other Distractions

The act of avoidance is found in relationships. Avoidance shifts attention, keeps us outsourced, and removes us from seeing our own issues and doing our own work. Avoidance can be expressed in "if only" statements. If only _________ was fixed. If only they did ______________. If only they said _____________. If only they were__________. What … Continue reading Avoidance and Other Distractions →

Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill

I'm aware of our culture's low tolerance for the uncomfortable. In my experience, there seems to be a fear that drives this low tolerance. The fear of limitations; that we can't fix everything, that it will remain messy, and resolution will not come. This fear seems to keep us in fixing mode and our tolerance low for … Continue reading Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill →

Maintenance

I took my daughter for an evening bike ride this week. For me, it's never just a bike ride. My mind can't help itself but drift to therapeutic analogies. As we took a ride, we quickly ran into a squeaky wheel situation. The single brake I had been relying on to not be squeaky, … Continue reading Maintenance →

Myth: Being Successful in Relationships is Natural

It’s normal to experience struggle, conflict and disappointment in relationships. Part of our human experience comes through interacting, working through and solving conflict with each other. What is less normal is investing time, research and planning into relationships. Today I want to connect with the idea that we all are not always instinctively good at … Continue reading Myth: Being Successful in Relationships is Natural →

The Gift of Engagement

My last post was on fighting depression through deep connections and relationships. In following that post, I think it’s important to talk about a principle within deep connection, engagement. In contrast, to many surface and monotonous relationships, deep relationships connect with our being. Engagement connects with the idea of intentionally hearing and understanding those around … Continue reading The Gift of Engagement →