Anger: Journal Prompt 2

Working through anger unfolds from processing unearthed emotions. I think of how intense disappointment can be, how it can make you feel desperate and aggressive. I think of loneliness that sits inside isolation that can harbor anger. Prompt: Under my anger is... Day 3

Anger: Journal Prompt 1

Anger is a type of amplified stress in your body. Anger can be felt in the space between your knuckles and in the tips of your fingers, in the far corners of your mouth behind your molars, or in the middle of your back where you shoulder blades meet your spine. Prompt: Anger in my … Continue reading Anger: Journal Prompt 1 →

Stress Margin

Margin: The space between reasonable stress and unreasonable. I’m always curious about the real put together human that all of a sudden falls apart in public. Truly, there’s something sacred happening here. I have the urge to put out construction signs and say, “Caution Ahead, give this human some space, they are going to need … Continue reading Stress Margin →

Addressing How Control Impacts Relationships

Addressing how control impacts relationships.

Emotional Inequality in Relationships, Part 2

Ways we can promote emotional equality in our relationships.

Emotional Equality in Relationships, Part 1

Have women accidentally taught men they shouldn't take on emotional responsibility...

Avoidance and Other Distractions

The act of avoidance is found in relationships. Avoidance shifts attention, keeps us outsourced, and removes us from seeing our own issues and doing our own work. Avoidance can be expressed in "if only" statements. If only _________ was fixed. If only they did ______________. If only they said _____________. If only they were__________. What … Continue reading Avoidance and Other Distractions →

Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill

I'm aware of our culture's low tolerance for the uncomfortable. In my experience, there seems to be a fear that drives this low tolerance. The fear of limitations; that we can't fix everything, that it will remain messy, and resolution will not come. This fear seems to keep us in fixing mode and our tolerance low for … Continue reading Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill →

I Choose to Move On

The vicious cycle of "stuck" holds many hostage with bad memories, mistakes, and regrets. The burden of hurt and pain is genuine. I watch victims work hard to move on. But they struggle, they get trapped. Internal experiences keep them from letting go and moving on; yet I continue to see the desperation to move on and … Continue reading I Choose to Move On →

Why we wait to get help

It’s probably a human problem of pride. It sure seems like no one ever looks for help until the absolute last second. Maybe you are about to end a relationship, give up on yourself, or you are at a state of anxiety where you don’t sleep at all! Why do we do this to ourselves? … Continue reading Why we wait to get help →