The genesis of co-dependence begins by the repression of our observations, feelings and reactions. -Charles L. Whitfield, Healing The Child Within Journal Prompt: What emotional pain have you cultivated a tolerance for?
Tag: Acceptance & Commitment Theory
Acceptance, 3
Two Versions of Acceptance. Version One: I can coach myself into surface-level being okay with this. But in stress, you’ll discover my hoard of marinated anger and resentment stacked in the backyard, blink-speed access. Version Two: I perhaps don’t agree or like this, yet I have cultivated peace that this is what is true in my life. I am choosing to make the decisions I can from my side of the fence. Journal Prompts: On my side of the fence... I am building up resentment...
Acceptance, 2
Death-grip clinging to wishful change is not acceptance. Journal Prompts: What if... What is...
Acceptance
Self-Talk, 9
And sometimes your self-talk is there to loudspeaker that it is time to act. It's rolled around and nagged enough. It is time to try something and give yourself the opportunity to fail or move forward. You need more information than what is left alone in your head. Journal Prompts: If I listened to the nagging I would... I most fear...
Self-Talk, 8
When you feel cornered by your self-talk, it's a sign that it is more interested in control than the context. Journal Prompts: The last time I felt cornered by my self-talk was... I feel controlled by my self-talk when... My self-talk missed the context of...
Self-Talk, 7
Atrocious self-talk needs a bit of distance to see its aggression and pattern. Distance can happen when you personify your self-talk as its own entity. Who from your past does your self-talk remind you of? What movie character do you hear? What would it smell like? If it had texture, what would it feel like? One of my favorites was someone personifying their self-talk as a Game of Thrones character being shamed and forced to walk naked. Or another, describing their self-talk smelling like the aftermath of burning. Or, the texture of a scratchy sweater you weren't allowed to take off. Journal Prompt: Personify your self-talk.
Self-Talk, 6
Say your 8-year-old neighbor shared that they were having a hard time feeling good enough. You would respond by...telling them to "get it together" and shame-talking them into a socially acceptable presentation? Nah. You would be compassionate and patient, mindful that they were having a hard time. You are capable of being compassionate and patient with yourself. Why? Because you do it with other people. _ Journal Prompt: Being compassionate with myself would mean... Being patient with myself would look like...
Self-Talk, 5
Your self-talk is an attempt at behavior modification. _ Journal Prompt: For better or for worse, how does self-talk mold your behavior?
Self-Talk, 4
Repetitive and distorting, self-talk can be incredibly misleading when it tries to interpret your current experience. A common cycle might look like: Review inadequacies. Feel bad. Ridicule and berate yourself. Feel bad. Make a plan to do differently. Feel a little less bad. Limp forward. Journal Prompt: My cycle...