Triangles

A triangle happens when you involve a person outside of the original conflict,

seeking an external alliance and attempting to maintain a sense of power.

In family dynamics, triangulation can function as a way to relieve anxiety and avoid confrontation,

ultimately helping the family maintain status quo.

A Triangulation Example:

Person A + Person B have a conflict.

Person A feels anxious about the conflict and talks to Person C to help manage their anxious feelings and avoid working it out with Person B.

Person C becomes a thermostat, enabling avoidance and relieving anxiety.

Triangulation is understandable,

but it ultimately undercuts what a family hopes for, connection and security.

Journal Prompt:

I triangulate when…