Blame.

Excessive blaming of one partner is a move for power. It puts the blamer in the position of superiority. It gives the illusion that responsibility for the blamer has evaporated.

Healthy relationships recognize that both partners have responsibility of the state of the relationship and the direction it is going.

Journal Prompt: I need to take responsibility of…

For the sake of this series, we will not talk about abuse that has escalated to physical and sexual violence, obvious offenses that need to be taken seriously, here is a resource for more help. In this series rather, we’ll process more subtle patterns that can as well be damaging to relationships.