I Choose to Move On

The vicious cycle of “stuck” holds many hostage with bad memories, mistakes, and regrets.

The burden of hurt and pain is genuine.

I watch victims work hard to move on. But they struggle, they get trapped. Internal experiences keep them from letting go and moving on; yet I continue to see the desperation to move on and leave it behind.

I’m left contemplating how people move on; how they start over, and how they find peace again.

I think what can happen.

Instead of viewing our past as parts of us, it seems we generalize. We feel paralyzed; we believe one piece of our story explains the entirety of our character. We blur select few pieces of our behavior, regrets, and past into the entire picture.

It’s dark there, it’s inconceivable to move forward there.

Choosing to move on divorces oneself from the stuck pieces of ourselves. Choosing to move on steps back and allows the panoramic view to have a vote in how we view ourselves.

Without choosing to look at our entire story, our specific and magnified view keeps us in bondage.

The choice begins by looking at our story fully instead of dissecting it into segregated parts…

These are my failures.

These are my embarrassments.

This is my hypocrisy.

This is my….

A healthier and more honest view of ourselves looks more objectively at the whole story…

Failure is a part of my story, but it is not all of my story.

Embarrassment is part of my story, but it certainly is not representative of my identity.

There are parts of me that struggle with hypocrisy, but it isn’t all of me.

There are parts of me that are dishonest and ugly, but it isn’t all of me.

I think our rough, negative, torturous inner world believes the most uncomfortable parts of ourselves is the whole picture. That’s where we get stuck.

Choosing to move on steps back. Choosing to move on accounts for the whole picture.