Ways we can promote emotional equality in our relationships.
Tag: Therapy
Painsgiving
Can we find gratitude through grief during the holidays.
Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill
I'm aware of our culture's low tolerance for the uncomfortable. In my experience, there seems to be a fear that drives this low tolerance. The fear of limitations; that we can't fix everything, that it will remain messy, and resolution will not come. This fear seems to keep us in fixing mode and our tolerance low for … Continue reading Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill
I Choose to Move On
The vicious cycle of "stuck" holds many hostage with bad memories, mistakes, and regrets. The burden of hurt and pain is genuine. I watch victims work hard to move on. But they struggle, they get trapped. Internal experiences keep them from letting go and moving on; yet I continue to see the desperation to move on and … Continue reading I Choose to Move On
Hypervigilant Living: The Subtitle of Anxiety
Hypervigilance is a symptom of anxiety. Webster's defines hypervigilance as: Keenly watchful to detect danger. Wary. Ever awake and alert. Sleeplessly watchful. Hypervigilance is continually overdone awareness and it feeds anxiety. For the visual learner, imagine anxiety as a weed. Think of hypervigilance as the rain that cultivates the growth of a weed that eventually consumes your yard. If enough … Continue reading Hypervigilant Living: The Subtitle of Anxiety
Maintenance
I took my daughter for an evening bike ride this week. For me, it's never just a bike ride. My mind can't help itself but drift to therapeutic analogies. As we took a ride, we quickly ran into a squeaky wheel situation. The single brake I had been relying on to not be squeaky, … Continue reading Maintenance
Grieving
Grief can be loss, death, change, or disappointment. Each individuals' process is different yet the process remains the same. We lost our son 4 years ago to a horrific and rare bacterial infection. His name was Rory. Rory lived and breathed on this earth for a little over 3 hours, all of which he spent … Continue reading Grieving
The Walls We Build Between Us, Part 1
There are many ways to get off track in a relationship. If we are honest, we can own our part in the failures we have experienced and mistakes we have made in relationships. The goal of this next series is to connect with common ways couples get off track. Today we will look at “Stonewalling.” … Continue reading The Walls We Build Between Us, Part 1
Myth: Being Successful in Relationships is Natural
It’s normal to experience struggle, conflict and disappointment in relationships. Part of our human experience comes through interacting, working through and solving conflict with each other. What is less normal is investing time, research and planning into relationships. Today I want to connect with the idea that we all are not always instinctively good at … Continue reading Myth: Being Successful in Relationships is Natural
The Gift of Engagement
My last post was on fighting depression through deep connections and relationships. In following that post, I think it’s important to talk about a principle within deep connection, engagement. In contrast, to many surface and monotonous relationships, deep relationships connect with our being. Engagement connects with the idea of intentionally hearing and understanding those around … Continue reading The Gift of Engagement
Mental Health & Journaling 