Mindfulness and the Tongue

The practice of mindfulness provides space to learn how the body postures when stressed, relaxed, or happy.

Mindfulness and Isolation

Our thoughts are apart of us, they are not the sole vote of our identity. On the other hand, if we have difficulty allowing the movement of thoughts, we can feel isolated and stuck.

Resistance to Mindfulness

I consider for a moment what it's like to be connected to the present. I quickly recall, like abrasive film strips, my last journey. It was too difficult, too painful, and far too overwhelming.

Painsgiving

Can we find gratitude through grief during the holidays.

Avoidance and Other Distractions

The act of avoidance is found in relationships. Avoidance shifts attention, keeps us outsourced, and removes us from seeing our own issues and doing our own work. Avoidance can be expressed in "if only" statements. If only _________ was fixed. If only they did ______________. If only they said _____________. If only they were__________. What … Continue reading Avoidance and Other Distractions →

Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill

I'm aware of our culture's low tolerance for the uncomfortable. In my experience, there seems to be a fear that drives this low tolerance. The fear of limitations; that we can't fix everything, that it will remain messy, and resolution will not come. This fear seems to keep us in fixing mode and our tolerance low for … Continue reading Depressed because I’m Human not because I’m Mentally Ill →

I Choose to Move On

The vicious cycle of "stuck" holds many hostage with bad memories, mistakes, and regrets. The burden of hurt and pain is genuine. I watch victims work hard to move on. But they struggle, they get trapped. Internal experiences keep them from letting go and moving on; yet I continue to see the desperation to move on and … Continue reading I Choose to Move On →

Maintenance

I took my daughter for an evening bike ride this week. For me, it's never just a bike ride. My mind can't help itself but drift to therapeutic analogies. As we took a ride, we quickly ran into a squeaky wheel situation. The single brake I had been relying on to not be squeaky, … Continue reading Maintenance →

The Walls We Build Between Us, Part 1

There are many ways to get off track in a relationship. If we are honest, we can own our part in the failures we have experienced and mistakes we have made in relationships. The goal of this next series is to connect with common ways couples get off track. Today we will look at “Stonewalling.” … Continue reading The Walls We Build Between Us, Part 1 →

The Gift of Engagement

My last post was on fighting depression through deep connections and relationships. In following that post, I think it’s important to talk about a principle within deep connection, engagement. In contrast, to many surface and monotonous relationships, deep relationships connect with our being. Engagement connects with the idea of intentionally hearing and understanding those around … Continue reading The Gift of Engagement →